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The Ache of Addiction

I am honored to be participating in “The Ache of Addiction” Lenten Speaker Series at St. James’s Church in Richmond, VA. on Monday, March 19 at 6:00 pm.
 
The Reverend Dr. D. Mark Cooper, Priest Associate at St. James’s wrote an exceptional blog post in October after reading Mothering Addiction, begging the question for himself as a clergy member:
 
“How can I be more open to the pain that is perhaps right in front of me and yet so well hidden that it goes unattended? How can our community invite people to be more transparent and if we could, can we find ways to be supportive?”
 
I invite you to visit Dr. Cooper’s website for more inspiration: http://www.markcooperauthor.com/mothering-addiction-by-lynda-harrison-hatcher/
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WARNING: May Contain Toxic People

What comes to mind when you hear the word “toxic?”
If you’re like me, you think of the ever-growing list of toxic chemicals and toxins in our foods. And, if you’re like me, you seek to limit your exposure. But what about toxic people? Toxic people can make you just as sick.
I recently ran across a video from Oprah’s Network and offer some thoughts on “Toxic People” from three well-known experts:

Count the Cost: “There is a cost in every relationship.
Ask yourself what that cost is and is the relationship worth the price? You don’t want the cost to be you!” Dr. Phil McGraw, author, psychologist, and TV personality #DrPhil

Just Say No: “Your ‘no’ matters.
Have a strong, solid ‘no’ muscle and a strong, solid ‘yes’ muscle. Say no to the things that don’t honor you, bring you joy or peace. You don’t have to explain your no.
But stand firm in your no.” Iyania Vanzant, author, and inspirational speaker  #IyaniaVanzant

Manage Expectations: “You cannot forgive someone for their behavior, if you don’t understand why they do what they do.
You can’t expect a broken radio to play like a radio that’s not broken.
It’s much easier to adjust your expectations to deliverables based on the person’s capability. You can’t expect somebody to perform on a gallon level if they only have a pint-sized capacity. T.D. Jakes, pastor, author and filmmaker #TDJakes

Bottom Line: For optimum health, limit exposure.

#SmallDoses #MotheringAddiction